There is no fixed timetable for a long-distance relationship. The useful questions are how the arrangement works for each of you and what, if anything, you plan to change. A gift or communication routine cannot answer those questions for you.
Talk about the reason for the distance
A short course, a job move and an open-ended arrangement have different practical constraints. Discuss which dates are known and which decisions are still uncertain.
Agree on how to keep in touch
Choose calls or messages that fit both schedules. Say how you will handle a missed call or a busy week. Revisit the routine if it starts to feel like another obligation.
Plan visits you can manage
Compare travel time, cost and work or study schedules. Decide together who will travel and where you will stay. Confirm arrangements before paying for bookings.
Discuss any plan to live closer
Write down what would have to change: housing, work, study or family responsibilities. Separate a wish from a decision and a decision from a booked date. Check in as circumstances change.
Make room for an honest answer
Ask whether the arrangement still works for both of you. You can appreciate each other and still have different plans. Avoid treating an article, a statistic or a present as proof of what your own relationship should be.
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